Hmmm…time for some honesty…

Well as much as I love country livin and my neighbors, it's not always picture perfect.  Some of you all may remember a post a month or so ago about hard lessons on the farm.  Well we tried finding Hank another home and couldn't.  We decided to just start keeping him inside the house or putting him in the garage at night.  We just couldn't take him to the animal shelter.  The neighbor said something that we *thought* meant that he no longer wanted us to get rid of Hank.


Well today we found out differently.  Today was my birthday and we spent the morning in Nashville where Joe's football team was recognized before the Music City Football game.  Now, you have to know that both Tony's & my dads have passed away.  Our neighbor across the street (who detests Hank) has kind of taken Joe under his wing and is a kind of grandfatherly figure.  They shoot trap, duck hunt, fish and work around the yard together.  But, our neighbor can also be very gruff and self centered at times too unfortunately.


Anyway, we get home this evening and Joe is so excited that he wants to ask Danny if he watched the game and taped it for us.  Danny explained that he couldn't get the channel, but then went on to say that he was either going to shoot Hank or call the sheriff because he was barking and keeping him up at night.  Poor Joe was in shock.  He hated to upset me since it was my birthday, but had to tell his dad.  Then Tony had to tell me so that we could talk about how to handle the situation.


It is just SO difficult.  Here we go and buy 44 acres and only have 1 neighbor in sight… and while they can be wonderful neighbors sometimes, they seem to just have it out for this dog.  They blame him for anything that goes on.  We've kept the dog inside since that last issue.  We only left him out on Christmas Eve when we had company.  Unfortunately our neighbor also had company and supposedly our dog barked and kept them up all night.  They never called to tell us.  We didn't notice the barking.  They just sprung it on my son unexpectedly tonight. 


Scripture says “Love your neighbor as yourself” and “as much as it is in your power, live in peace with all men”.  so I gues Hank has to go.  As much as we love him, we can't deal with all of this discord.  It has broken Joe's heart because our neighbor seems to not care about our feelings and really seems to want control in this issue.  It worries him that he will always try to “control” whatever animals we have.  The  2 younger boys are gone to my mom's house right now so we may try to get rid of Hank before they get home.  It's just so difficult. 


So, lest I make country life sound idealic, I just had to be honest about the issues that we still have to handle.  Please pray that God will provide a good home for Hank and help us to love our neighbor even when he doesn't deserve it!

  16 comments for “Hmmm…time for some honesty…

  1. MelM
    December 31, 2005 at 3:10 AM
  2. Titus2woman
    December 31, 2005 at 3:24 AM

    *HAPPY BIRTHDAY!* and I’m sooo sorry about that conflict. I STINK at such things and let them stress me out and consume me! Praying you know a better way with the grace and peace of God. (((((HUGS))))) sandi

  3. JenIG
    December 31, 2005 at 8:20 AM

    what a drag! that’s not a good way to spend a birthday! i hope despite your neighbor that you were able to have a nice birthday and a large cake.

    love you!


  4. mrskbrook
    December 31, 2005 at 8:40 AM

    I’m so sorry, and on your birthday too! Neighbors can be a challenge, I know, understatement of the year. My prayers are with you!

  5. Anonymous
    December 31, 2005 at 9:22 AM

    Happy Birthday and Happy New Year's!

    I would love to take poor Hank. I'm a shooin' for dogs! We have 3 that have "adopted" us. We are in the country too and all of our neighbors let their dogs run and no one complains (thank the Lord!) I wish we were closer but we live in Mississippi and are about 6 hours from Nashville. If you can't find a home closer and want to drive this way, let me know!

    Edited by Amberleoda on Dec. 31, 2005 at 7:22 AM

  6. ejoyce,ink
    December 31, 2005 at 9:37 AM

    and I’m truly sorry to hear about Hank. He sounds like such a perfect farm dog. My 2 cents…keep him. Make what adjustments you can…but why give up a part of your life? I know the verse…as much as lies within you live at peace with all men…but just maybe if Hank was gone, your neighbor would find some other bee in his bonnet to crank about. To complain because the dog barked one night is a bit unreasonable. SO…my vote is to continue to make adjustments to minimize their interaction with Hank, but let Hank stay. The fact that your neighbor would be so insensitive as to make an issue out of it on what was obviously a happy evening for you shows that he’s a bit unreasonable.

  7. FarmGirlShelley
    December 31, 2005 at 10:37 AM

    Your Hank reminds me of Hank the Cowdog (John Erickson).

    If I was in Kentucky and had my farm, I would take Hank in a heartbeat. Poor thing. I will pray for you and this situation. Have you thought about those electric invisible fences? That would at least keep him on your property. It is important to live at peace, but I pray that you find a line to draw so that they do not control your lives, that isn’t good for anyone. I will pray that God changes their hearts toward your dog, and that they will see how important he is to you and your boys. This is a tough situation. Well, I should be arriving in April. If you haven’t found him a home by then and we can have dogs maybe we can adopt him. Then your boys can still come and see him. 🙂

  8. wakeforestmommy
    December 31, 2005 at 10:39 AM

    I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It is difficult. If you can find a good home for him than that is one thing, but I agree that your neighbor may find something else to “control”. Why is he calling hte sherriff again? Are there noise ordinances in affect out there? Usually, those only take affect inside city limits. I just wonder how much of this is his daughter and how much is him. I know that ya’ll have probably tried everything though, so I pray that you will find peace in whatever decision you and DH make. God bless you in the new year.

  9. DandelionSeeds
    December 31, 2005 at 2:52 PM

    Blessings to you and yours in the coming year!

    In Him,


  10. Boltbabe
    December 31, 2005 at 5:59 PM

    I am so sorry! I will send up some prayers for you all regarding this. Seems to me, with 44 acres, and only one neighbor, there should be some kind of workable compromise. In the words of Mrs. Gump, “Surely there must be somthin that can be done.”

    Let me know how this goes.

  11. bondservant4jc
    December 31, 2005 at 8:06 PM

    I’d write you a poem….but…well i’m not real swell at that. I hope everything has worked out with your neighbor. What a stinker on your birthday. I am so glad that I got to know you in Tennessee, my kids always ask me to talk like that lady from Kentucky who says bless your heart.

    I pray that God continues to bless you and use you in a mighty way this coming year.

    Happy birthday and BLESS YOUR HEART!


  12. crewchief
    January 1, 2006 at 2:06 PM

    Will no one step up to the poetry challenge? Shame, shame. I am willing to put my reputation on the line for you Nancy!

    My dear friend Nancy,

    when we met you we got antsy

    to live the country life,

    escaping town and its strife.

    I coveted your advice,

    because you are so wise.

    Who’d have thought I’d be blessed

    with a friend who is best

    at lending a shoulder or ear

    and will gladly hear

    when I whine and complain?

    My life will never be the same!

    I’m sorry I missed your big day,

    but I had to go away.

    I’m sorry about Hank.

    Perhaps that neighbor needs a good spank!

    Big hugs to you, my dear friend.

  13. Anonymous
    January 2, 2006 at 8:53 AM

    Do you think that would keep Danny out of your yard?

    Love– A Friend

  14. Janne
    January 2, 2006 at 9:30 AM

    I’m so sorry you have to deal with people like this 🙁

    If we weren’t renting, I would take your dog!

    I really hope you can find a good home for him!

  15. adegrasse
    January 2, 2006 at 8:35 PM

    Sorry I’m late!

  16. JillNovak
    January 2, 2006 at 10:28 PM

    Thank you Nancy for all your encouragement!

    I hope you find a good home for your dog. I love the lessons the Lord is teaching you all, even though some of them are painful.

    Good night from Illinois,


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